I would be lying if I said that as a female, urban-oriented aspiring writer, I didn’t want—at least at some level—to be like Carrie Bradshaw. Carrie gets a lot of the Sex and the City inspirational credit. She is, after all, the one writing the column that provides the voiceover, and it is primarily her journey we’re following.
And although it was mainly Carrie’s story, I find myself thinking that within the Sex and the City universe, it isn’t Carrie who deserves the most praise. Oddly enough, I think it’s Miranda Hobbes.
Why Miranda? Miranda was whiny and neurotic, sometimes bitchy, almost never in touch with her feelings—possibly least endearing of the four women. She was not the most eloquent, the most evolved, the most sexually liberated or the most attractive.
But Miranda was the character that stayed true to herself while still experiencing honest personal growth. And that’s pretty hard for a fictional character.
In the pilot, Miranda is harsh and impossible to please, either completely given up on the idea of love or never believing in it at all. She is the epitome of a cynical woman.
“I have this theory that men secretly hate pretty girls because they feel like they’re the ones that rejected them in high school.” She says this to a guy on their first date.
Yikes. Carrie calls being on a date with Miranda “an increasingly hopeless situation.”
So what happened?
Over the course of Sex and the City, Miranda softened. She accepted love and family without sacrificing her corporate career track. Not that she changed who she was—she was still incredibly unromantic to the point of hating her own honeymoon getaway—but she grew into a more balanced woman. She dropped part of her guard. She described her husband Steve as the man who was “meant for her.”
But still, at the end of the day, she was still the woman who always told it like it was.
“We whine when we don’t have boyfriends and we whine when we do.”
Isn’t that the truth?
Lauren Chval is a writer and film and TV enthusiast. She recently graduated from the University of Notre Dame and is currently on the lookout for the next thing that inspires her.