One of the hardest things we learn to do as a woman is to fully accept ourselves. No matter how attractive men (or other women) find us, no matter how successful we are in our careers, no matter how gifted we are at taking control of a situation, there will always be things we want to change about ourselves. Women who love themselves are the ones who deserve our admiration.
Which is why we love the fictional Tiffany Maxwell, Jennifer Lawrence’s character in Silver Linings Playbook.
Tiffany Maxwell is introduced as the bold, brash, and slightly crazy widow of a police officer. Several people describe her as crazy, and Tiffany even applies that label to herself. But Tiffany isn’t crazy; she’s honest about what she wants—so honest that she doesn’t want to hide behind a filter.
“I want to leave. Are you going to walk me home?” she asks her new acquaintance, Pat. Tiffany isn’t afraid to be forward. If someone doesn’t like her personality, she’ll move on, she doesn’t have the desire to pretend to be someone she’s not.
On their first date, Tiffany makes a scene when Pat says she is crazier than he is. She sends the tableware clattering to the floor, bangs her hands on the window on her way out and flips Pat the double bird. In some ways, she proves his point, but by doing so, she asks the question, “So what?” Why does it matter if other people think I’m crazy—what does it change?
Arguably the best line of the movie comes in another verbal retaliation from Tiffany. Pat calls her a slut, and Tiffany retorts: “There will always be a part of me that is dirty and sloppy, but I like that, just like all the other parts of myself.”
And that’s why Tiffany deserves a spot at the top of our inspirations list—her life is on her terms, and she refuses to change parts of herself for anyone.
Lauren Chval is a writer and film and TV enthusiast. She recently graduated from the University of Notre Dame and is currently on the lookout for the next thing that inspires her.